Monthly Archives: April 2011

Jameela Jamil “cyber schmyber”

I bought my regular Company magazine the other week and discovered a really interesting article in it. It was by Jameela Jamil called “Cyber Schmyber”…

“SMS, MMS, tweeting, poking, Facebooking, BBM, WhatsApp, instant messaging, email, AOL chat, Skype..bloody hell. In a world where we’ve never been so well-connected, in truth, we have never been more detached. As a generation , ladies, we are losing touch by hiding behind technology. I’m sick of writing LOL or LMAO. I’d much rather laugh out loud with a real person. I hate those self-checkout machines in supermarkets. I miss chatting to cashiers. I even miss that awkward embarrassment you have when buying tampons, despite the fact that women everywhere have periods. Nonetheless, I miss it. What’s more, I hate it when those pissy machines start screaming ‘unexpected item in bagging area!’ making everyone stare at you as though it just shouted, ‘thief!’. It’s exhausting. My mum used to be on first-name terms with her local shopkeepers. They asked after her children, they saved her a copy of her favourite magazine before it sold out and they lookd out for her. These days, the only sense of community we have are online ones. We see our friends’ photo albums on Facebook and feel as though we’re up to date on their lives, buts it’s just an edited glimpse. Editing is the problem. We spend hours constructing the perfect text, or message rather than deal with natural reactions. And how can you get your point across with a limit of 140 characters? We’re losing the art of conversation- even handwriting. Half the birthday cards I send look like I’ve written them with my foot! I have countless friends who return from dates disappointed becuase there was no ‘conversational’ spark. ‘But we were so well matched over text’, they moan. YES, because it’s not real it’s pre-meditated and, very possibly, you or he had a friend who helped construct it. One quality I had find appealing in men is a quick wit. I love people who shoot from the hip and banter back at you. You don’t get that with technology. If you need a few hours to think of a clever response, then isn’t that a fake version of yourself? Also, I want real kisses not ‘xxx’. And my greatest pet peeve is that you can just stop contacting someone when you feel like deleting them from your life. Because of this, we are a generation unable to handle confrontation. And don’t eve get me started on the over analyses of what a tiny text or tweet means. I’ve spent hours with mates having conversations that go like this: ‘He didn’t put a kiss at the end, does that mean I shouldn’t?’ or ‘Does an exclamation mark make me look to eager?’ or ‘Does a dot dot dot at the end make me look to mysterious?’. Blah blah blah. It’s too much effort! Social networking does have it’s benefits and Facebook is a godsend when it comes to remembering birthdays. But we need to strike a balance. We can’t get lost in this cyber world. Today, I intend to scroll through my Facebook friends and make a list of everyone I actually want to see in real life and I’m going to arrange a date. Because, with, 13000 Twitter followers and985 Facebook friends, I’ve never felt more alone. Bring back the banter!”

After having a recent module about digital media, I’ve really started to focus alot around the idea of whether technology taking over is a good or bad thing?! I’m going to continue looking into this area of study and maybe even focus a project on it. Here is a link to the work I did for the digital media module;